Category Archives: Parenting help

Parenting with Grace

Through following links from one link to another I stumbled upon a book titled “Grace Based Parenting” by Dr. Tim Kimmel.  I knew instantly that this was a book I needed to read.  I had the library order it for me and anticipated its arrival.  Now, having completed it I must say I feel as though I have been lovingly reprimanded for many of my parenting techniques.  Dr. Kimmel share through-out the book many real life examples of how important grace is in parenting.  To be clear, grace isn’t letting our children do whatever they want with no guidelines what-so-ever.  But  neither should parenting be about setting a bunch of rules that must be followed precisely.  The bottom line is God treats us with grace.  He provides us a secure love, a purpose in life and hope.  He allows us to be different, vulnerable, to talk freely with Him, and to make mistakes.  God shows us grace and if we want our children to grow up secure, confident, and Christ’s disciples, then we must get down on our knees and figure out what it means to parent them with grace.  I am so glad I read this book and I highly recommend it.  Now, I must get to the tough business of making life changes so that my children can know grace.

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Save on Wipes!

Here is a quick, money-saving tip for those still using store-bought baby wipes.  I recently watched a couple new moms tear their wipes in half before using them on their babies’ diaper changes.  They said they don’t really need the whole wipe.  I tried it for myself and found they are right!  I use the same number of half wipes as I would normally use whole wipes.  We just cut that expense in half!

Personality?

In college I studied personality types and found the information very interesting and helpful as I relate to other people.  There are many different assessments available for figuring out what personality type an adult is. Once you know that information and gain an understanding in how to use that information,  it helps you to see a person’s strengths and focus areas.  Personally, this makes it easier for me to work with others as a team, and show grace more freely.

I have always known that if I could figure out what my children’s personality tendencies are, I could be a more effective (and understanding) parent.  Yet, until recently, I have been unable to find an assessment tool that would be fun for the kids and uses words they can relate to.

I’d like to share with you a new discovery.  It is called Kid’s Flag Page.  It is set up like a game/activity you play with your child, and includes a book to help you understand the results of the game.  Anyone could use this to help them be a better guide for their children.  I absolutely cannot wait for my opportunity to try it out!  You can check out this video to learn more.   Here is a give-a-way you can enter for your chance to win one.  Good luck!

 

Link Love

My husband shared this with me, and I found it so enjoyable I just had to pass it along.  I think all of us moms can relate and enjoy this new perspective.

http://www.messycanvas.com/2011/04/breaking-for-perspective/

Need Parenting Help?

Calling all moms out there. . . Do you ever feel like pulling your hair out as you try to make sense of this new job we now have (parenting)  that has no instruction manual?  We all do at least one time or another.  I have only recently discovered a series of books that have already made my job easier to handle.  I wish so much that I had known about these books before Victoria was born.    So now, of course, I must pass the knowledge on to everyone who is interested.

“On Becoming Babywise” by Gary Ezzo saved my sanity.  The principles taught in this book seem so simple, and yet until I ready this book (on baby #3) I never really thought about it so much.  It teaches not only how to help your baby sleep better, but how it really is possible to start teaching and training your precious baby, from her first few weeks life, skills that will help in every stage of training as she grows.  I also really appreciate the emphasis the author puts on how important Mommy and Daddy’s relationship is for the health of the child.

Admittedly, there is quite a bit of controversy over the Babywise technique. Just do a quick Google and you will see for yourself.  I, however, firmly believe that even if you read the book and choose not to follow it EXACTLY, it will still help give you healthy guidelines that will help you baby get into a routine quicker.  Which (by the way) will help you greatly.  I would also like to note if you are interested in reading this book that you should really try to get a copy of the second edition.  The first edition has very rigid rules set forth, and the later versions worded things with more flexibility care.  As always , there are certain circumstances that require different actions.   Please do listen to your pediatrician’s advise and make decisions that you feel comfortable with after much prayer and consideration.

I cannot speak for all the books in this series, but I have read this one and “Book Two: Parenting Your Pre-Toddler 5-15 months”.  I have loved them both and look forward to reading the next one as soon as it comes in the mail.  I recommend both of these books to you with all my heart, and plan on including them in baby shower gifts to new mommies whenever I can.